Interesting Psychology Team
We all have some degree of self-interest.No one’s perfect, and it’s natural. However, fake people, in addition to being self-interested, are inauthentic. What’s on the inside doesn’t match the outside.
These individuals are often so busy trying to make themselves look better to others, that they don’t even realize they’ve developed behaviors or attitudes that are not congruent with who they really are. Like with everything else, the truth eventually comes out.
Getting involved with fake people can end up in disappointment, so keep an eye out for these nine signs of a fake person.
1 – They Are Attention Seekers and People Pleasers
Fake people are often people pleasers. They’re full of insincere compliments, and they have no problem faking interest in you, simply to ingratiate themselves. That desire to be liked fuels most of their actions, so they pretend to like all the same things you like, just so that they can be included.
2 – They Are Big Braggarts
Phonies love to brag about themselves. So once they think they’ve got you hooked, they won’t stop talking themselves up. This is likely because they want to impress you. Phony people are usually phonies because they’re insecure.
To hide that, they boast, show off, name drop, and go on and on about their talents and everything else they’re good at. They’re never at a loss for stories that show you just how awesome they are.
People like this are really self-absorbed, and it’ll soon become evident that they aren’t concerned about you at all. In fact, they’re too wrapped up in their own narrative to care about anyone else.
3 – Their Body Language and Words Don’t Match
A fake person may fake wanting to know or learn about something or someone. For example, they may say, “How fascinating,” as you describe your vinyl record collection, but they’ve got their nose buried in their phone and their feet facing an exit
. If you’re ever in doubt about whether to believe what they say versus what you see their body doing, always remember that the hips don’t lie. And, phonies typically don’t think about faking this part of their behavior.
4 – They Exaggerate and Lie
You know those people who always have to one-up others? If you got a promotion, they also just got a promotion and they are expecting to get another one by the end of the year. If you earn $20 an hour, then they earn $25.
They always have to be better than you. In their efforts to make themselves look important, they often come off as pompous and self-centered. If you’re attentive enough, you will probably catch a fake person in a lie within the first few minutes of meeting them.
5 – They Leave Your Side as Soon as They Recognize Someone Else
Fake people often use others to comfort themselves. For example, if you’re in a social setting, and a fake person doesn’t know anyone, they might leech onto you just so they appear to have friends or to seem popular. But once someone more important arrives, they’re off to leech onto them instead.
People like this are common in the workplace, too. These brown-nosers only care about things when the boss is around, or if someone is watching. If you’re mid-conversation with them and the boss walks by, they’re sure to leave you high and dry so they can take the opportunity to go and brag about their most recent accomplishments.
