Interesting Psychology Team
For some people, being interesting comes naturally; for others, holding someone’s genuine attention can be more difficult. If you notice that people seem sleepy or disinterested when you talk, you might not be all that exciting to talk to or listen to.
Don’t worry. Being a human tranquilizer isn’t your fate. And you don’t need to memorize fun facts or be the life of the party to be interesting. But you will need to develop more substance to engage others. Here are some telltale signs that you’re a rather boring person, and some tips on how to change that:
1 – You Never Disagree, Have Opinions, Or Speak For Yourself
There is a fine line between laid-back and boring, and if you avoid conflict by rarely voicing your opinions, you’re probably on the boring side of that line. Going with the flow isn’t inherently bad. But, when you don’t bring engagement or excitement to the discussion, you miss out on potential connections with others, and you might even let conversations die.
Always consider what your point of view is, and don’t be afraid to share it. People often appreciate and remember those who have new or unusual opinions. Just don’t be obnoxious about it.
2 – You Talk Too Much
Some boring people have the complete opposite issue. They share way too much! Talking too much tells people that you’re not interested in what they have to say. So, practice listening more. And when you do talk, consider asking thoughtful questions that encourage other people to keep talking.
Also, it’s important to be mindful of what your audience’s interests are. When you touch on a topic that resonates with them, you’ll make more meaningful conversations. If you notice that people’s eyes wander when you’re speaking, it’s a sign that they’re bored. When this happens, you should either shift to a new topic or end the conversation.
3 – You’re In A Rut
If you’re stuck in a rut doing the bare minimum to survive, you’re probably boring. After all, what is there to talk about when all you do is work, eat, and sleep? Interesting people are interested in life. They explore the world with curiosity, question what they don’t understand, and share their joy with others.
It’s much easier to hold a conversation with someone who experiences new and exciting things. If you struggle to find topics to discuss, consider expanding your horizons by trying something new or visiting someplace different. Experiences like these will boost your energy and give you things to talk about.
4 – You Lack Enthusiasm
When you think of a boring activity, it probably involves something monotonous. Well, interacting with a boring person can feel monotonous and never-ending, too. Some people aren’t very expressive. It might seem like they have only one setting for their facial expressions and tone of voice.
Usually, these people also avoid eye contact and don’t use verbal fillers such as “uh-huh” all that much. A lack of enthusiasm makes you seem boring, and if you suffer from monotony, consider working on your social reciprocity skills which involve non-verbal communication that shows your interest. You can try making more eye contact, nodding, smiling, and laughing when it’s appropriate.
