Interesting Psychology Team
5 – Being Overly Competitive
A little competition is always fun. It can be really motivating for some people, but like many things, there’s a limit to what’s acceptable.
When you’re overly competitive, you value the victory over the people. And that can destroy your relationships.
As they say, it can be lonely at the top. But it doesn’t have to be. Being competitive isn’t inherently bad, but if it gets to the point that it’s negatively impacting your relationships, then you might want to take a step back and reassess. Winning isn’t always worth it.
6 – Playing the Victim
Some people have it really tough. We’re all going through our own things, and sometimes it can be overwhelming. But it’s important not to develop a victim mentality.
The victim mentality handicaps you and limits you from reaching your full potential. Regardless of your past, or even existing circumstances, it’s up to you to make the changes you need to be happy.
There’s no shame in asking for help, but helplessly waiting for someone to rescue you could leave you quite lonely.
7 – Attention Seeking
Attention-seeking behavior, whether conscious or subconscious, is an attempt to become the center of attention, sometimes to gain validation or admiration. This might look like someone fishing for compliments or saying something completely outlandish just to elicit a reaction.
Like arrogance, this is usually rooted in some deeper insecurity or past trauma. These attention-seeking behaviors tend to get progressively worse. And if things become risky enough, someone could get hurt. It’s better to get to the root of attention-seeking before things get out of control.
8 – People Pleasing
People-pleasing is going out of your way to make others happy even when it costs your own time and resources. Like arrogance and attention-seeking, people-pleasing is rooted in insecurity and a lack of self-esteem.
People pleasers often think so low of themselves, that they believe the only way someone else will like them, is if they do things for them. Doing things for others is great, but not when you’re doing it to gain their approval.
This goes back to the issue of self-worth. Once you know who you are and where your value comes from, people-pleasing becomes easier to stop.
