Interesting Psychology Team
5) Identify your negative emotions :
You have to identify what emotion you feel to change your emotional state. She felt sad and scared in Sarah’s example. We found that Sarah also felt neglected and insecure after deeper examination.
4) Challenge Yourself :
The next step is to ask yourself: Why do you feel like you are doing? What are the thoughts behind this?
Sarah felt sad about not getting a text back. The thought was that nobody had time for her or was interested in her because she was ugly. That made her feel lonely and unsafe.
You have consciously started to observe your thoughts at this stage. Many of the beliefs we have are based on other people’s exaggeration, misconceptions and opinions. We can therefore challenge these misconceptions and judgments in our minds. We can analyze our thinking processes and logically change our negative thinking patterns to more positive.
Begin by questioning their validity to challenge the beliefs behind your thoughts. Sarah asked herself, for example: Is it true that nobody has time for me because I’m hideous? Sarah started to learn a lot about why she felt the way she did when she thought deeply about this question. You can ask questions at this stage that will force you to dig deeper.
You can also ask extreme questions, as they inspire extreme answers. Sarah went on to ask herself in our example: Does that mean I’ll never be happy?
Sarah thought about these issues and saw that the situation was exaggerating. A man who did not write her back did not mean she would never be happy. She was reminded that her joy did not depend on how other people interacted with her.
As they did for Sarah, posing questions to yourself may reveal limitations in your thinking. You will start to realize that you have made false assumptions and focused on the negative aspects of your life’s situations.
Please try it. Maybe you have a past experience that has made you unhappy and ask yourself direct questions that will help you to get to the heart of the matter. It is important to realize that we create our own sadness by drawing negative conclusions in our subconscious mind from these past experiences. These conclusions must be challenged here, which are stored as lessons.
If you fail to correct the negative lessons, they will be replayed in your subconscious mind. These repeat lessons can weigh you down over time and induce depression.
3) Understand your emotions :
This step is all about appreciating the emotion’s deeper meaning. In our example, Sarah found that as a result of her recent experience, she felt insecure. She began to worry about not being good enough. She felt better about herself during the days when her love interest was writing back.
She had a strong need for social acceptance and approval. You must recognize and take advantage of the deeper meanings of your feelings as opportunities to grow. Sarah determined her value because she had low self-esteem on the basis of what others thought. She had to be appreciated and accepted to feel better about herself.
2) Replace your negative emotions:
These disempowering thoughts must then be replaced by empowering thoughts. You have to ask yourself: How can I look at things differently or do things differently to make me feel better and live a better life? Transforming destructive thoughts into those that make you feel better at the moment is essential. Sarah reminded herself that she was worthy of love, no matter how others might deal with her.
‘I love myself, she said, and that’s enough. Someone who really cares about me will give me back the love I give myself.” To add substance to these empowering thoughts, think back to times when you really felt the way you wanted to feel. Sarah had a memory in which she felt dignified, confident and loved. She held in her head this scene and revived the moment.
Not only does this technique boost confidence, it can also lead to a solution. You may recall something you have done in the past during a similar situation that helped you manage it.
1) Visualize:
Visualize yourself with the emotion you feel right now – in the future. When you do this, your vibration will not only increase, but you will also start to create an autonomous association with this emotion, which will allow your brain to handle it effortlessly down the line.
You can do this repeatedly, each time you stretch your imagination and make it more real in the eye of your mind.
The key to mastery is repetition. If you repeatedly rehearse a situation where you deal with the emotion, you’ll know exactly how to handle it next time in your life.
