Interesting Psychology Team
Most people have a type, or at least a list of traits they look for in a partner. Maybe you want someone trustworthy, hardworking, generous, and loyal. Or, perhaps you’d like someone funny, lighthearted, and kind.
These are all common desirable traits. Have you considered adding vulnerability to the list? You might even realize it was on your list all along. You just didn’t know it. Vulnerability involves putting yourself in a situation where you might get hurt. Not physically. Emotionally.
Vulnerable people are willing to put their hearts on the line. They have the courage to show their true, honest feelings even if it risks emotional pain. It’s incredibly endearing because not everyone is comfortable being vulnerable.
Those individuals who can’t or won’t open up are rarely able to experience healthy, satisfying relationships. The courage that comes with vulnerability is hopeful, sweet, and sometimes irresistible. So, here are eight reasons why vulnerable people are so attractive:
1 – They Are Genuine
There are people out there who put on a pretty face for everyone they meet. And then, there are those who are just themselves. More often than not, you’ll run into fake people who try to pretend that they’re perfect.
That’s why vulnerable folks are real gems. They’re the ones who not only acknowledge their flaws but accept them, too. And it allows them to be their most genuine, authentic selves. With a vulnerable person, honesty and trust are a given. And loyalty exists on every level.
They are loyal to themselves and their values, as well as their friends and partners. Although they can keep a secret when they need to, they won’t keep things from you. Vulnerable individuals are so genuine because they don’t worry about others’ opinions of them.
They won’t jeopardize their identity or authenticity just to be liked. And in the same way, they don’t expect others to change for them. They are unconditionally accepting. With vulnerable people, what you see is what you get. And what you see isn’t half bad.
2 – They Know That Trust Is Important
Sometimes, learning or relearning how to trust can be really hard. Vulnerable people know how important trust is in any relationship. It’s foundational. And they don’t just know, they practice.
When someone trusts you enough to be vulnerable with you, it reveals growth in your relationship. Trust is essential because it protects both partners. And vulnerable people understand that.
3 – They Are Excellent Communicators
Like trust, communication lays the groundwork for a healthy relationship. And, surprise, vulnerable people are great communicators. They are experts at expressing their thoughts and feelings, and they have no trouble asking for what they need.
At the same time, they are wonderful listeners who easily identify and prioritize others’ thoughts, emotions, and needs. Fear doesn’t hold these individuals back from talking about their feelings.No matter how scary it might seem, they’ll talk about what’s important to them. And they’re ready to listen to what matters to you, too.
4 – They Are Naturally Empathetic
Do you know the difference between empathy and sympathy? Many think they’re interchangeable, but “feeling sorry” for someone is not the same as empathizing with them. When you feel empathy, you feel someone else’s pain, and vulnerable people are great empathizers. That’s because they are in touch with their own emotions.
They can use their past experiences of frustration, disappointment, and grief to empathize with others. And it helps them form even deeper connections with the people they care about. While some people may never experience empathy, it takes little effort for a vulnerable person because they are naturally empathetic.
If you’re going through something difficult, a vulnerable person will be right by your side, letting you know that you’re not alone. They’ll never disregard or invalidate your feelings, and your vulnerability will be attractive to them as well.
