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5 – Treat First Dates As Practice
Treat dating like job interviews, which may seem just as daunting to an introvert. But a first date is meant to check your compatibility, not to commit to anything. Your date is interviewing you as much as youβre interviewing them.
The immediate goal of dating is to meet new people and get to know them to see if itβs a match. Companies interview multiple candidates before selecting one, and so should you.
Each job you interview for and donβt get is simply more practice for your next one. And the same is true for dating.
6 – Be Authentic In Your Online Dating Profile
This includes photos and content. Your pictures should be recent and show off different sides of you. If you like fishing, take a pic with your biggest catch. If youβre a dancer, show off your latest moves. As far as your words go, donβt try to be something youβre not.
Donβt put things in your profile that you think will get you noticed because the truth will come out eventually anyway. If youβre an introvert, claim it and be clear about what you want and need in a mate so no oneβs wasting any time in the already brutal world of online dating.
7 – Donβt Be Afraid Of Silence
Weβre so overstimulated as a society that silence can be uncomfortable. In the dating world, this can cause anxiety if youβre an introvert, and you might try to overcompensate to rectify it. But donβt let those awkward silences get to you.
Get used to appreciating silence instead. One of the best things in the world is being able to sit with another person without saying a thing. Remember, this date is great practice for better future dates.
Β 8 – Plan Dates That Minimize βUnknownsβ And Anxiety
If youβre an introvert, you probably wouldnβt pick a grunge concert with a mosh pit for your first date anyway. Think of places where youβll feel most comfortable. This could be your favorite coffee shop or restaurant.
If youβre nervous about having to hold a conversation, plan a short date, or one where you’re doing something active like bowling or mini-golf. That way, you have something else to focus on during the date and something to talk about afterward.
Planning ahead removes some of the anxiety associated with dating. That way, you can be anxious about everything else.
The Take Home
Dating doesnβt have to be dreadful. By planning ahead and reframing your perspective, you may actually find that you enjoy it. Thereβs a subtle allure to introverts. Their generally quiet demeanor can be endearing.
So be yourself and enjoy the journey. Remember that practice makes perfect. Before you know it, youβll be a dating master!
