Interesting Psychology Team
Introverts are often thought of as shy, but in reality, they can be just as social as extroverts. They may just need to rest and recharge sooner. And while dating can be brutal for introverts and extroverts alike, introverts are prone to overthinking things and getting overwhelmed with anxiety.
If youβre a single introvert, you may wonder how youβll ever find your soulmate when you rarely leave the house. Even after texting or chatting on the phone with someone for a while, itβs inevitable that you will have to meet in person.
So, whatβs an introvert to do these days? Here are 8 dating tips For Introverts to help you out.
1 – Remember That Small Talk Has A Purpose
Small talk is exhausting for introverts. Theyβd much rather go straight for the deep conversations. But small talk is a necessary evil in the game of dating.
Especially on the first date, when youβre still getting to know each other, small talk is the foundation on which those deeper conversations will occur.
So yes, you will need to show interest while your date goes on about how their co-worker smells like potatoes. Youβve got to crawl before you can walk.
2 – Meet New People Online
There are dating apps for everyone. For example, thereβs Farmers Only, which, as you may have guessed, is for farmers only, because farmers need love too. Online dating puts the introvert back in their comfort zone, at least initially.
You can swipe and chat without ever leaving your house or putting pants on. Messaging also helps reduce some of the anxiety associated with dating because it gives introverts the opportunity to be thoughtful and edit their responses.
3 – Keep Rejection In Perspective
Many people fear rejection, but itβs an unavoidable part of dating. Youβre not going to like everyone you go on a date with, and not all of your dates will like you. The key is to not take it personally.
Rejection is not a reflection of your inadequacy as a human. It just means that itβs not meant to be. Minimize the pressure of dating by reframing it as an opportunity to meet and get to know another interesting person.
They may not be the love of your life, but they could turn out to be a really good friend.
4 – Focus On A Hobby And Meeting People Organically Through Activities
Yes, it is still possible to meet people organically in our increasingly digital world. And this can be easier to do when you have mutual interests. For instance, if youβre obsessed with plants, join a local planty group on Facebook or Meetup.
Youβll find it easier to put your guard down when thereβs a focused activity on deck. It can cut down on that dreaded small talk I mentioned earlier.
If you donβt have any hobbies, then recruit one of your extroverted friends to accompany you somewhere you can meet people. If you donβt have any friends, then you might be SOL.
