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Dating is one of the more confusing events that life throws your way. From trying to figure out if they even like you, to presenting yourself the right way, there are already enough things on your mind without taking into consideration some of the scarier aspects of dating.
You’ve probably heard some weird or downright crazy dating stories in the past, but is there any way to figure out if the person you’re with is actually a psychopath?
Fortunately yes, which is why today we’ll be breaking down some Signs You’re Dating a Psychopath, as well as what to specifically look for within your own relationship.
You seem too similar to them.
One of the most common parts of dating a psycho guy or girl is feeling as if you are almost too much alike. This is because psychopaths usually learn from a young age to mask emotions and to present “safe” ones according to the situation.
If you feel like your partner likes all the same stuff as you, or that you share the same opinions on almost everything, something more could be going on here. The process of copying you in order to make you like them more is called mirroring, and something that psychopaths commonly do in order to lower your guard around them.
While they may seem like the perfect person for you, this could all just be an act to them. If there is a part of you that doesn’t trust or fully believe that your partner is being genuine, then the best next step is to ask more questions to figure out why they are choosing not to open up.
They don’t seem to have a lot of friends.
Psychopaths have a lack of empathy and compassion. By default, this can make it pretty difficult to form real friendships with others, which is why psychopaths are often described as loners.
People without much empathy are more likely to focus on themselves, and this is definitely the case for people labeled as psychopaths. This is not to say that these people will have no friends, as they are still interpreted primarily as cheerful and friendly people.
The friendships that the psychopath experiences will resemble something closer to a work or party relationship, with a lack of real trust or humanity. Being vulnerable is really tough for this type of person, and so maintaining a healthy and satisfying friendship will seem very difficult to psychopaths.
A common example of this would be that a psychopath doesn’t get a friend a birthday card to make them feel good, but instead to make sure that the intent or “effect” was felt. Psychopaths are self-serving individuals, which is why interpersonal relationships can seem so difficult to keep up.
Psychopaths don’t want a genuine connection, and so will often look for work in places where they can control the power dynamic even better. In workplaces, they often maintain positions of power in order to further establish themselves as a person deserving of respect.
They constantly threaten boundaries.
Since psychopaths have a hard time considering the emotions of others, a relationship with one can become very taxing. These people will always be intruding on the boundaries that you put up for yourself, and may not even see your annoyance as a reason to stop.
People that are in relationships with psychopaths often recall being challenged often about their beliefs. They report that they always felt their partner looking for weaknesses in their defenses, and feeling exhausted after arguments.
Interestingly enough, although there will be no boundaries on your side, your partner will still be extremely defensive when they feel like they are being prodded, and this can easily lead to fights and discomfort.
Psychopaths want to remove others’ power immediately, so don’t expect them to loosen up their boundaries in order to be “fair” to you.
