For some people, being alone is terrifying. For others, moments of solitude bring comfort. Whatever your stance on solitude is, spending time alone is an important step in personal growth and development. It brings emotional independence and security. And as you spend more time with yourself, your worrying thoughts will steadily diminish. Thatβs why people who enjoy alone time never worry about the following things:
1 – Other Peopleβs Opinions
Those who spend much of their time alone tend to be more confident. Instead of seeking external validation by impressing others or avoiding criticism in social situations, they feel comfortable being themselves.
People who enjoy alone time are self-assured, and they donβt worry about what others think about them. Since they arenβt concerned with how others perceive them, they donβt second guess their thoughts, actions, and feelings.
2 – Having To Prove Themselves
Being alone has its perks. People who donβt spend a lot of time around others donβt have to worry about proving themselves because most of the time, thereβs no-one to prove anything to. Gifted with confidence, people who like to be alone, recognize that just because someone doesn’t like them, doesnβt mean they need to change who they are. And even though they understand that people can be judgemental, they are OK with it. When someone doesnβt like them, itβs just one less person to worry about.
3 – Doing Things They Donβt Want To
Some people have a hard time saying no or end up in situations theyβd rather avoid. People who prefer to spend their time alone donβt experience this internal conflict as much because they usually do what they want when they want to. Take, for example, a party.
Most people go, perhaps because they feel obligated, or theyβre afraid of being stuck at home, alone, and bored. But for those who spend most of their time in solitude, if they donβt feel like going somewhere, they donβt. Alone time doesnβt equal boredom, it just means more free time to do what they want.
4 – Finding Something To Say
Conversations can sometimes be challenging, and most people want to avoid those awkward lulls. On the other hand, people who donβt spend much time with others, donβt have to worry about coming up with new topics or stories. They know their interests and they donβt feel compelled to play βpretendβ just for the sake of entertaining a conversation.
5 – Missing Out
People who prefer being alone donβt experience the fear of missing out. They wonβt attend an event just because they donβt want to miss out. If they do attend, itβs because they genuinely want to. They have a good instinct for what plans are worthwhile and if the company will be good or not. And they make decisions about what they want by using their internal compass, not by giving into fear.
People who like solitude see being alone as an opportunity, not wasted time. So, when they actually decide that theyβd rather be social than alone, itβs probably going to be a great experience.
6 – Needing Time To Think
For some people, life is so hectic they never have time to think. People who like to be alone donβt find themselves wishing they could just have a moment to think. They have an abundance of quiet time to themselves, and they often relax with introspection. Solitude allows them to explore their minds and wonder about the world around them. They enjoy being in their heads, and they never worry about not having enough time to think.
7 – Having To Lie Or Exaggerate
People who enjoy solitude tend to be more honest with themselves and others. They feel secure in their identity and never lie or exaggerate just to seem more βcoolβ. They arenβt overly concerned with collecting followers, phone numbers, or friends, or impressing people with their knowledge or reach. So they never name-drop, pretend, or embellish reality.
8 – Being Alone
It might seem obvious, but people who prefer being alone never worry about being alone. To them, the idea of never getting married, or living alone forever, isnβt scary. Their best relationship is, and always will be, with themselves – and they take pride in that.
People who like to be alone are able to give themselves all the validation they need, which means they wonβt settle for a relationship just because they feel like they have to be in one. And ultimately, this makes them much happier in the long run. Those who prefer solitude are often negatively labeled as loners or hermits, but they deserve respect and admiration.
The Main Takeaway
The ability to feel comfortable in your own skin when youβre entirely by yourself is a highly admirable quality. And not letting the fear of being alone dictate your life means that youβll be able to live more authentically.
Loving your alone time is about feeling confident and having a healthy relationship with yourself. Those who hate being alone may be stressing themselves out by trying to fill that void. While most people worry, those who embrace solitude spend their time creating, growing, and developing.
Do you prefer being alone? And can you relate to this list?
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