Interesting Psychology Team
List of 10 behaviors to make yourself more Likable and sympathetic.
1. Being more attentive
People like to be listened to. Focus on what the person is saying, rather than on what you want to say when they are finished talking. Show that you are paying attention (nods, hum hum …)
2. Be more supportive
Rather than take a minor complaint lightly (- “I had to work all weekend. ” – “Well, that’s why you make a lot of money! ”), it’s better to offer a validation (“Ah, that sucks.”). If someone talks to you about something they’ve achieved, offer your sincere congratulations; if they talk about something that has upset them, offer your sincere sympathy. If someone tells you about an extraordinary experience, be enthusiastic.
3. Follow up
This is an opportunity that most people miss. If someone tells you they are going to take an exam, ask them how it happened. If you know they went on vacation, ask them how it went. If they said their child was sick, ask how they are doing.
4. Finding common ground
People connect with others who look like them or have similar interests and opinions. So when you meet people you don’t know well or are meeting for the first time, try to find common interests, hobbies, opinions, tastes in movies, books, shows, music or fashion, vacation destinations or anything else that might create a connection between you and them.
5. Using body language
Give a firm handshake, make eye contact, smile, stand or sit in an open posture (for example, arms at your side rather than bent over your chest) and nod when someone speaks to you to show that you are listening. We tend to note a person’s body language more unconsciously than consciously, but we do note it and it adds to our impressions of a person’s friendliness.
6. Putting the phone away
Put it in your pocket or bag when talking to people. If you are at a table, at least turn it over.Glancing at your phone – which is so hard not to when it’s beside you or in your hand – signals that you are not listening. not completely (at best) or that you are distracted and disinterested.
7. Avoid being too negative
Complaints have a social function because they can be a way to find common ground (“I hated that movie!” “Me too!”). But too much negativity can be unpleasant. If we want to be more sympathetic, we have to make an effort to present a slightly more positive perspective, even if our mood at the time is gloomy. It’s a matter of being positive while remaining authentic, without acting. Instead, try to talk about things you can be positive about even in a bad mood.
8. Avoid dominating the conversation
You may be a great storyteller, but others want a little stage time too. Pay attention to your speaking time in relation to that of your interlocutor. People notice these imbalances and record them unfavorably, even if they seem to like your stories on the time.
9. Avoid bragging
If the discussion is about the largest type of fish, do not hesitate to intervene. But if not, mentions of any kind intended to let people know how great you are should be avoided.
10. Keep disagreements to a minimum
One of the most annoying phrases people find is: “Let me play devil’s advocate.” Unless you know someone very well, in which case your friendliness is not an issue, it is not necessary or productive to focus on the points of disagreement, no matter what argument you may have.
If someone liked a movie because it “really made them think,” don’t say, “Really? I thought it was bad. Instead, offer constructive criticism such as “I wish they had explored the theme of friendship more deeply.
People like it when others agree with them, so don’t focus on points of disagreement unless the issue is really important to you; even then, try to do it lightly.
