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7 – You Never Know When Theyβre Going to Explode
Are you constantly filled with anxiety because you never know what might set off your partnerβs sticking time bomb? Perhaps the trigger might be another one of their insecurities which always results in those dreaded accusations.
You should have the freedom to speak your truth aloud and to make mistakes without any major repercussions. If your partner always overreacts and flies off the handle at every minor inconvenience, itβs a sign of toxic behavior that could escalate in the future.
8 – Youβre Keeping a Scorecard
If both of you are keeping an internal scorecard where youβre trying to one-up each other in the sense of competition or comparison, then you might be trapped in a toxic relationship. Though some arguments might be entwined with the past, the habit of constantly digging up past mistakes is NOT healthy.
Being in a healthy relationship means accepting everything about that person, and that includes their past mistakes. If you or your partner find this impossible, this relationship might not be right for you.
9 – They Strip Away Your Self Esteem
Your partner is supposed to lift you up and make you feel better about yourself. If youβre feeling the complete opposite, and spend your days questioning your self-worth, thatβs a sign of a toxic relationship.
Toxic people love to criticize others and their choices. They thrive when you are down. It gives them a sense of power in the relationship when they make you feel like the lesser person.No matter what, your sole purpose shouldnβt be to please someone else. Your partner should respect and appreciate you for who you are.
10 – Name-Calling
It can be really sweet and kind when your partner refers to you in terms of endearment. Now, if they start to call you mean or nasty words that hurt you, thatβs incredibly toxic behavior you could do without.
And if, in turn, you begin to respond to their comments with explicit language, thatβs a sign that theyβre pulling you down to their level. You should never have to sink so low or experience such degradation.
11 – Youβre Always the One Going Back
Do you frequently break up and get back together? Thatβs a sign of a toxic relationship. If youβre always the one that has to do the hard work of apologizing, even when you did nothing wrong, you need to step back and think about whatβs really going on.
Too many times, you miss the ideal version of the person you made up in your head. You were blind to the many flaws that broke off your relationship in the first place. Try to see your partner as they really are, and evaluate whether you truly want to be with that type of person.
The take home
Though these signs are more subtle and easy to ignore, theyβre arguably just as important as the obvious ones. Unfortunately, love and happiness donβt always go together.
By paying close attention to the signs around you, it will be easier for you to predict where a relationship is headed, so you can end it before itβs too late. And while every relationship requires some sacrifices, you shouldnβt have to compromise your self-respect, self-esteem, and happiness.
Of course, no relationship is 100% perfect, and youβll inevitably run into some challenges. But that doesnβt make it OK for someone to manipulate you or treat you like crap.
