Interesting Psychology Team
Scientists have been working hard trying to decode which qualities in a woman would make her a great long-term partner that a man should never let go. What they uncovered are characteristics that would make any woman worth a man’s long-term emotional investment.
Welcome everybody to interesting psychology! today, we’ll be listing17 qualities, that a woman can possess that indicates she’s a keeper:
1. She is Conscientious
Research has shown that one of the best predictors of successful long-term relationships and marriages is conscientiousness.
Conscientiousness refers to a person’s desire to perform their task responsibly and diligently, and to take their obligations and commitments to others Seriously. Woman who is conscientious will most probably make for an excellent partner, while a woman who is not “Conscientious” likely to be disorderly and inconsistent.
2. She is Socially Skilled
Β This quality will make a woman adept at understanding various social contexts and situations, as well as more subtle social cues that may be quite important. This kind of woman is likely to be friendly, open, warm, and attentive to people around her and their needs, including to her husband and his needs.
3. She is Faithful and Loyal
This kind of woman isn’t preoccupied with calculative thoughts, about whether she can “do better”. Which is a frequent source of lying and cheating behaviors.
Instead, she is dedicated and committed to her partner and is willing to engage in meaningful romantic interactions with her partner, which implies her willingness to help her partner create a comfortable warm space characterized by reciprocity, mutuality, and consistency.
4. She Takes Care of her Appearance
It is commonly understood that sexual attraction is an important part of an intimate romantic relationship. A woman who understands this will probably be willing to work on herself and her appearance, without empty appeals for “acceptance”, which causes her to become complacent in hopes that she is accepted regardless.
Taking care of one’s looks is essential to maintain a healthy sex life. It should be noted that this point is equally relevant for both sexes.
5. She is Reliable Dependable and Trustworthy
Psychologists often cite the trustworthiness of partners as one of the most reliable predictors of long-term relational success.
If a woman possesses this trait, she will be able to display reliability and dependability to the other partner. This means that she will be willing and capable of providing him with the feeling that he can count on her to be his “Rock” when they face obstacles and challenges of everyday life. A sense of safety that is crucial for any remotely happy and healthy relationship.
6. She Respects her Partner as a Person
A woman who respects her partner as a person won’t be prone to behaviors such as: invalidation of his thoughts and feelings, belittling him as a way to build herself up, mocking his emotional expressiveness, or undermining and sabotaging his attempts to realize his potential.
Instead, she will be able to respect him in spite of his flaws, which doesn’t imply that she has to endure the consequences of those flaws. She will be able to provide constructive criticism without the need for insults or invalidation.
7. She is Supportive of her Partner
A woman who is supportive of her partner will remain attentive, loving, and caring to him. Even when they are going through difficult situations, and when they are required to overcome obstacles that may sometimes seem impossible to overcome.
In other words, she will stand by him through thick and thin and will not abandon him even if life and circumstances leave him feeling-depressed, alone, or desperate, she will inspire him to move forward and achieve his goals.
8. She is Tolerant
Β There are behaviors that a woman should not tolerate under any circumstance: physical sexual or emotional abuse. A woman’s tolerance implies her willingness to accept her partner’s quirks that are an integral part of his personality if she was aware of them when she entered the relationship with him.
Her tolerance should be extended to his small or unintentional mistakes and failures, in a word she should be tolerant of the fact that he is, just like her and everybody else, flawed human being.
9. She is a Good Listener
Women who are good listeners are not likely to engage in behaviors that would signal disinterest in their partner’s words when those partners are trying to express their thoughts, feelings, ideas, and values.
A woman may disagree with her partner, but she will make a conscious effort to not only passively listen, but hear and acknowledge that he is trying to communicate. He will be interested and attentive to his words even when she is doubting his motivations and will be able to not interrupt, ridicule, or minimize whatever he is trying to say.
10. She has Healthy Boundaries
Β a woman with healthy boundaries is able to express her autonomy without isolating and detaching herself from her partner. she will respect his need for space, and will require that he reciprocates that respect for her boundaries as well.
Without healthy boundaries, relationships tend to be dysfunctional and filled with conflict, especially when there isn’t a consensus among partners as to what or where those boundaries exactly should be.
11. She is Capable of True Intimacy
When a woman is comfortable entering a truly intimate relationship, she is willing to provide the man she is in, a relationship with a safe space where he can be vulnerable emotionally, expressive, and authentic, without being ignored mocked, or ridiculed in any way.
True intimacy implies a desire to create a warm shared relational space where a person can share their dreams, goals, aspirations, fears, regrets, with a sense that the person will be seen, heard, and supported to always share their authentic thoughts and feelings without feeling invalidated. A woman who possesses this quality is very likely capable of entering and remaining in a loving long-term relationship.
12. She is Compassionate and Empathetic
A woman who is empathetic is capable of both cognitive empathy and affective empathy. Cognitive empathy refers to a person’s ability to intellectually understand what another person is feeling.
Effective empathy is the ability to immerse oneself in the emotional world of another person and actually feel what the other person is feeling without losing their own sense of self. This quality coupled with a compassionate approach to her partner makes any woman a definite keeper.
13. She is Assertive
Assertiveness is a personality trait that implies a person’s ability to clearly and confidently express their thoughts feelings and preferences and to remain firm in what they want to achieve in spite of other people’s potential disapproval. An assertive woman will be able to be critical of something she doesn’t like in her partner, without being insulting.
According to psychologist John Gottman, people should be able to insist on solving specific problems and issues, instead of focusing on the entirety of their partner’s personality, that may not have anything to do with that specific issue or problem.
14. She is Passionate about her Partner and Life in General
These kinds of women will express their passionate dedication to their partners, as well as demonstrate proneness to view life, even everyday life, and its inevitable predictability as an adventure. It is highly unlikely that she would be easily bored, or boring to her partner or other people.
15. She has a Strong Sense of Independence
A woman who is truly independent doesn’t need her partner- she wants her partner. She won’t settle for being someone without personal independence and responsibility and will insist that she has choices that she must make without the need of her partner’s approval, unless those choices affect him and their relationship, in which case she will insist on shared responsibility.
16. She has Diverse Interests
Women who are autonomous, yet capable of intimacy, assertive, yet sensitive to other people’s needs, independent, yet aware of the importance of togetherness are almost certainly going to have very diverse interests.
This will make them interesting people who are not trying to be interesting, but who are genuinely interested in many seemingly different things. These women are complete and complex personalities who can still be uncomplicated and easy to communicate with through many different channels and about a wide variety of topics.
17. She is ConfidentΒ
Confident women tend to be less neurotic, more efficient at whatever they decide to achieve, as well as self-loving, and self-accepting in a healthy way, without the need for rigid defenses and over compensations through an over-inflated sense of self-worth.
These kinds of women are definitely long-term relationship material, this was our list of 17 qualities in women that make them the best choice for a long-term relationship.
