Interesting Psychology Team
Lots of single guys struggle to find a girlfriend, are you one of them? If so, instead of stressing about it, know that you can do something about it. Whether youβve had luck with women in the past or not, thereβs probably a reason, or a few, why you canβt get a girlfriend right now.
Most of the time, men continue to struggle because they donβt know what those reasons are. Fortunately, identifying those barriers isnβt as hard as you might think. If you find yourself wondering why you canβt seem to get a girlfriend, some of the following reasons might be the culprit:
1 – Donβt Know How To Flirt
The most common reason guys struggle to get a girl is that they donβt know how to flirt. The good news is that anyone can learn, regardless of their physical attractiveness. Flirting is a form of art, and cultivating this skill will not only help you get a girlfriend, but it will also help you keep her. You see, you should never stop flirting with your partner even after youβre in a serious, committed relationship.
Effective flirting helps keep the spark alive. It adds spice to the relationship since it communicates your attraction and desire. Now, there isnβt a rule book when it comes to flirting because everyone has different methods. But, like any skill, youβre going to need practice before you get good.
2 – Being Too Anxious Around Women
The next most common barrier to finding a relationship is anxiety. If you donβt feel comfortable around women, youβre probably not capable of being the most authentic version of yourself. Anxiety can make it hard to smile and laugh, which are two things that people are generally attracted to.
Your nervous nature around women could result from negative experiences like rejection or lack of exposure. The difficult solution to this problem is to put yourself in situations that make you anxious. When your brain learns that thereβs really no danger, your anxiety will start to fade. So, expose yourself to women.No, not like that. Spend time with them. Talk to them. Practice your social skills.
Another strategy is positive thinking. Anxiety is the voice that says things will go wrong – but you can fight it by focusing on the bright side. Instead of catastrophizing the situation, think about how the woman youβre talking to is just another human being. And even if she rejects you, sheβll probably be nice; and if she isnβt, well, sheβs probably not someone youβd want to date anyway.
3 – Lack Of Self Care
Another reason some guys canβt a girl has to do with poor self-care practices. There are a lot of people out there who donβt take care of their bodies. Usually, guys who donβt have a healthy diet, donβt exercise regularly, or have bad hygiene don’t feel confident about their looks.
But instead of changing their situation, they complain about not being able to get a girlfriend. The problem is, women feel the same way about these menβs appearance, and most of them don’t find it very attractive. If you never shave, survive on fast food, and rarely exercise, youβre telling women that you donβt care enough to put effort into your own well-being. So, you probably wonβt put effort into a relationship, either.
Plus, women like guys who dress well and smell nice. So, get a haircut. And do whatever else you need to do. Probably laundry. Being attractive doesnβt boil down to natural good looks. A little effort will take you a long way.
4 – Being Too Negative
The hard truth is that nobody wants to spend time with someone who complains all the time. If youβre generally a pessimistic person, your negativity could be driving women away. To avoid rejection, try to be more positive. Or, at least, less negative.
The next time youβre talking to a woman, consider telling a heartwarming story or recalling a happy memory. Try complimenting her or mentioning a positive observation about where you are. Joy is contagious, so your positive energy is more likely to elicit a positive response from her.
